Sunday, February 10, 2019

Why must we pay for hellos that we say--pay when we sigh an adieu? (2/9/09)


[1]Saturday was an interesting day. It was very hard to focus because we  were itching for our transfer calls. But we managed to do some work and Elder W. made a cake for our baptism.

It was wonderful to have the baptism. It was a pretty good turnout, and it was the first time Jason Johnson[2] had ever used his priesthood. (He passed the sacrament for the first time the next day.)They had a lot of nonmember family come, and we hadn't even thought beforehand to tell them not to take pictures of the actual ordinance. Maybe we can ask them to delete the pictures. There were a few mishaps; I had to direct them how properly to hold their hands. We selected to sing hymn 180, which has a disclaimer on the bottom to sing verses 1-4 for sacrament and to omit 4 but sing 5 and 6 for baptisms. So we put on the program to sing verses 1, 5 and 6, and it was announced, but the chorister just went on with the first four. It does bother me that no one ever pays attention to the extra verses on the bottom. So, we sang a sacrament song for a baptism.

This was my favorite baptism. Cassandra, the fifteen-year-old, is actually my oldest baptism, and I think the most sincere. She's also the only one I've baptized that I've taught all the way through. When we started the day before Halloween we wondered if she was just taking the lessons to please us and/or her family. But after not quite three months we asked what she thought and she agreed to be baptized.

And thus it was very sad and shocking to receive our transfer calls. All day we were speculating what could happen. We knew  that something was happening since our zone leaders didn't call us.[3] But I'm being transferred to Hayden Lake, ID. It's my first Idaho area. I'm going to be companion to an Elder B., who is just done training, and thus in mission lingo I'm going to be his mom.[4]

Since a missionary in Cheney killed off his companion we're with him today and I'm stuck at a 30-minute computer, so I don't have too much time. The baptism and confirmation was the most exciting, but transfer calls were also noteworthy. I thought I'd be here at least four transfers, but nope. Now I probably only have two areas left--a three-transfer area and a four-transfer area. An elder in Wenatchee was there ten months, so it could be my last area! :(

Running out of time (in more ways than one),

Elder Melville

I was granted extra time (this week's email Part II)


The friendly computer gave me an extra thirty minutes, so I can write a few more details.

Another sad occurrence about transfers is another person we're baptizing probably in March, Jessica P.[5] She came to church as she should, and her husband did too. He's a less-active member, and she asked him what he thought about her learning and baptism, and he said he didn't want her to do it alone, so he's coming back.

We had to teach the lesson in Gospel Essentials. It was on our Heavenly Father. It was a short lesson so we allowed for a lot of discussion. So I talked about how we receive commandments for our benefit, and that living these, like the Word of Wisdom and the law of chastity, makes us happier. Then we asked if there were any questions, expecting more discussion about God. But Jessica piped up, "What's chastity?"  She struggled with the word, but her husband helped her say it correctly, so I hoped he'd tell her what it was, but he didn't, and no one else was answering, so I had to. Then she kind of uncomfortably dropped it, but Elder W. told me later he worried that it was going to turn into a five-minute sex discussion.

That was better, though, than when we had to teach the law of chastity as the whole lesson back in November or December. That day the class consisted of me and my companion, never married; our branch mission leader and his wife; a single sister in her fifties or sixties, also never married; and an excommunicated member, who was also a sex offender. She had just had an interview with the branch president about being rebaptized, and had addressed her WoW issues with him. Then in the lesson we got to the part that said, "Breaking the law of chastity can make you commit an even greater sin--abortion." At this point the ex'ed member chimed in, "Oh, I forgot to tell him about that. It wasn't my fault; the government made me do it." Yep, she has no shame, and it's going to be a long road for her.

Anyway, I was also excited for a woman whose husband is the high priests group leader, but she had her name removed. We were walking down the street last week and saw her and she asked for a Book of Mormon. She talked our ears off and said various pastors and stuff try to get her to badmouth the Church, but she doesn't. She also said she's not ready for "discussions" (which they're not discussions anymore, and as a former member she wouldn't need them, but we'd gladly give them anyway), but it was interesting she said she wasn't ready, not that she didn't want them. She's consistently been attending church, bringing their ten-year-old son, whom she didn't allow to be baptized at eight, but she may allow for it now.[6]

I loved the story of Preston and David the ghost.[7] The pictures I've seen of Franklin are darling. It seems you keep changing your mind. Last I knew you were planning on shipping me to Tennessee when I got home. Honestly I'd rather them come out, but as long as I'll get to see my nephews, it will be good.[8]

Love,

Elder Melville


[1] My email title came from a song from the 1972 movie Snoopy, Come Home.
[2] This was the dad of the family. I feel like I can include the full name since it’s so common. I haven’t been able to find them. The summer after I came home from my mission, I went back, but they had moved.
[3] The mission president would call us if one of us was being transferred, but the zone leaders would call us if we were staying.
[4] You were in training for two transfers, and your trainer was your dad. If you got a second companion while you were still being trained, that was your step-dad. And your companion for your third transfer was your mom. This was not official, of course, but my mission president did tell me, “You’ll be momming him.”
[5] She didn’t get baptized in March, but she did get baptized within a year.
[6] The mom and the son got baptized after I left the area. I was Facebook friends with her in 2011, but she thought I was a different missionary and later unfriended me.
[7] My nephews were in Taiwan while my brother was still at home. My mom wrote me this in her email: “Preston has decided that David is dead, that is why they don't see him.  Dave has tried to talk to him on the phone to reassure him but Preston won't talk to him.  He finally told Ya-ping that the reason he won't talk on the phone is because dad is a ghost so that is too scary.”
[8] My mom’s email said they were going to bring my nephews to Utah for Christmas when I came home, and that is indeed what happened.


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